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    Sadie Watson’s Extraneous Thought # 548 a.k.a Ice Cubes
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  • Published: Jan 14th, 2008

sadie_photo.jpgDo you live in a house where no one ever re-fills the ice cube trays? They take the very last cube and put the empty tray back in the freezer? Or, one of my favorites – they put the tray back with only one cube left in the tray.

You ask yourself – why do they do this? The question plagues and frustrates you; and drives you to ask even more questions. Questions which lead you to believe they have no consideration for you. You even begin to question your relationship. You wonder, how you landed up with some one who is so uncaring and selfish- this person, who can not be bothered to fill up the ice cube tray is the same person who can’t find the clothes hamper when the floor is so much more convenient. The same person who is the last one out of bed but can’t be bothered to make it. You think, couldn’t they be the one to pick up the dry cleaning, or go to the market – just once. Your next thought is, when was the last time I received flowers for no reason at all? Better yet, when was the last time I felt like giving flowers for no reason at all? You remember previous times when you left each other little notes on the bathroom mirror declaring your love for one. Now your notes have become correspondence about errands that must be run and projects that must be completed. You start to wonder what has happened to your relationship – when all you really wanted was something cold to drink.

3 Responses to “Sadie Watson’s Extraneous Thought # 548 a.k.a Ice Cubes”

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  1. Caren Crane
    on Jan 15th, 2008
    @ 7:24 pm

    Ah, yes, the last cube and the existential conundrum that follows! We all go down this dreaded spiral from time to time. Nothing to be done except fill up the blasted tray and remember that the argument just isn’t worth it! Best bet: save money for a new fridge with icemaker. 😉


  2. Cassondra
    on Jan 16th, 2008
    @ 5:11 pm

    I don’t think I’ve ever read anything more perfectly universal (at least to a gender) in my LIFE! IT’s BRILLIANT.

    Haha Caren. OR you could try taking that cube and putting the tray back and seeing what happens. In my house, it would never get filled. We’d all just drink warm beverages. The laundry would lie on the floor and he would go and buy new underwear.

    But stopping doing it for them I think is the only way. Doesn’t work for me as far as making them do it, but at least I feel slightly less put-upon. Is that passive aggressive you think? I’m sure it’s something dysfunctional. Of course, I also feel slightly more THIRSTY the next time I go to get something cold to drink. Hmmmm.

    It’s so hard to let go of being a fixer. :0/ I’m not good at it. Letting go, I mean.


  3. barbara_bergin
    on Jan 16th, 2008
    @ 11:25 pm

    I can’t tell whether the offending party is a hubby, boyfriend or kids. My husband and I raised our chidren with the help of an older woman (older than us) who always said, “all you can do is ask them.” Like ask them to refill the ice tray, ask them to make their beds, ask them to get weekend jobs, ask them to make good grades. You get the idea. When she said that the first time, I thought, “what an idiot…I TELL them what to do.” But in time I realized that she was right. And with that realization came some level of peace. And with peace came happiness. And I have a happy marriage and two happy children who, even though now in college, still love to come around and hang out with mom and dad. And we still ask.

    Barbara Bergin
    author of “Endings”
    http://www.BarbaraBerginInk.com